Beauty privilege is real. When you are pretty or handsome, people will easily notice you, admiring you, then giving many things to seduce you. You don’t need to look a FAQ for the answer. Being pretty opens some doors smoothly.
The biggest enemy for pretty people is aging. You may be beautiful like a Miss Universe or you have a fabulous face like a prince charming, but when you grow older, your skin will be sagging and wrinkles appear to change your prime appearance.
Is being an enemy of aging a global phenomenon?
Being a Woman Isn’t Easy
I live in Indonesia, which is included as a country with a fatherless issue. Reading the news really made me upset. I love to be a woman, but honestly, it isn’t an easy job to maintain our poise and femininity when we are constantly in hustle mode.
Comparing Beauty
Don’t you think that a woman can become the worst enemy for another woman? Yes, I’m not saying that our enemy is the patriarchal system. We still need men. To build a good family and protect our family, we need a team, and the smallest team consists of our father, uncle, brother, and husband.
If I talk about a woman’s rival, actually it’s another woman who has a bitter mouth. Without even thinking, we hate our belly because we compare ours with a fitness trainer. After you are married, the competition is about your kids' achievement and so on.
Jealousy is undeniable. Sometimes, a lady gets hate just because she is always well-dressed while caring for her children. A simple thing that can lead other women to feel insecure then project their hate onto other women.
Insecurity Becomes a Poison
It’s a fact that women are the tempting target audience for many brands from head to toe. We can easily find some women who judge a 70-year-old lady because she wears a short skirt and bright color. Many top celebrities become skinnier, and it shows us how unhealthy they are. Plastic surgeons’ demand is rising.
It’s okay if you want to get slim and do some procedures such as a botox injection or a face lift to prevent your aging, but it will trigger a new problem when you have a bad insecurity symptom and can’t be satisfied with your face and body even after having the good face-lifting result. It’s toxic.
Let’s Change The Perspective
As a woman, how do I face those circumstances that can make my brain blow up if I can’t create a barrier and boundaries to protect myself? I learn to change my perspective.
Cutting Off, Focus on Myself
Here is the thing: it’s not easy to cut off some female friends who grew up with me since I was a teenager. However, when I learn more about myself and recognize that when we level up, sometimes our old friends are in the same place.
Yes, some people will hate us when we move forward, but sometimes they aren’t bad, it’s just that we walk in a different path so we can’t align anymore.
So, I focus on myself. I learn what my weakness and strength are. I cut off people who belittle my progress, and the more I focus on my self-growth, the more I can attract like-minded people who support and cheer each other.
Create My Beautiful Visualization
I control my food, do a workout, and have a good rest every night with the goals to live healthily. As a woman, I also want to have skin without wrinkles, healthy and thick hair, and a hot body.
When I see myself in front of the mirror, I smile and say, “You are as hot as Beyonce, and your laugh and presence are magnetic.”
I like senior lady accounts who are in their 60’s until 80’s with great appearance, healthy, and still doing many things like traveling, joining a marathon, and dating. It gives me a new view of how I see aging with grace and joy.
Beauty privilege is true, but having a long lifespan is really a gift. Not everyone can reach the age of 40, let alone 80. I see myself as a gift, then I'll let God do the rest to pamper me more.
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