We
are bornt as the social creature, no matter we are introvert or how much we
avoid to be distracted from the world. Human always need other to make
their life colourful also meaningful. But, in fact, life will not run smoothly.
Sometimes we will find the obstacles then maybe some people make us upset and
feeling miserable. Lost track, leaving behind, guilty are the normal feelings
may occur. In one case, we may be a victim but in anoher case that I have found
is there are some people whom showing off their suffer to obtain another
simpathy for their own sake.
I call
the people who take advantage from another sympathy as ‘the victim wannabe’ people. It is
normal to use mask to hide our truth, but according to me it is bad if we use
it to reap many benefits without thinking the side effect. Who is ‘the victim
wannabe’? I describe it below based on my own experience.
1. They will praise us often, then asking for many things
We like to be loved and admired. This
kind of ‘the victim wannabe’ people will praise for our achievement although it is not a huge success. Slowly,
they look as our supporter. Then, they start to ask our help, pretending they
cannot do it alone and we will feel guilty if we want to refuse their asking. They
place themselves as the one who need help in every single time.
2. They are blamer
Maybe we have heard those kind of
complaint from the victim wannabe person,”I was dumped because her/him. She is
liar.” And “I fail because my parents never allow me to do this task. I lost of
my concentration to finish it properly.” Complaint is not wrong, but it becomes
a problem if they invite us to hate the people who they blame. They repeat it
continuously. When we have the missunderstanding with this kind of people, they
will reject to talk wisely then we will become the next wrong person. They will
blame us and shouting to the crowd that we cause troubles.
3. Hothead and selfish
The difficult thing is the victim wannabe will never recognize
that they are annoying. They think as the good one and force another to receive
their opinion. Hothead and selfish.
So if you meet or knowing the
three characters of the victim wannabe, please beware! It is better not to stay
close. You can give advise but because of their hothead character maybe it will
not be easy. Don’t be too kind and too permissive. We can make a friend without
thinking who they are, but we should know who can treat us as a good friend sincerely.
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Ini mah, 3 sifat di atas, sekali aku ketemuin, bakal aku jauhin saat itu jg. Males deket ama org yg dikit2 nyalahin org, ngerasa paling sial sedunia, ngeluh, egois :D. Bhay sama org yg begini :D
iya dan racun banget mbak :D
Never heard of that term, i'm more familiar with playing victim, hehe
yes, it is the term that made by me hehe
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